At the age 12, I realized I was different. I experienced things differently and started to feel “weird”. I definitely did not fit within the community in which I was raised. Through my journey, I woke up to the fact I am an empath. I am super sensitive to the world around me. In being an empath, I was affected by other people’s energy, and had an innate ability to intuitively feel and perceive others. I was able to get a “read” on people very quickly.
In my research, I have found that 15-20% of people seem to have special abilities in this area. Often, these abilities cause one to feel overwhelmed because the nervous system is processing information at such a deep level. These abilities have also been linked to an increase in depression and mental illness. My experience as an empath gives me the unique ability to help people understand their sensitivity, emotions, and how these often overwhelming feelings can be turned from a negative to a positive.
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18 to 35-year-old Men
I work with men of all ages but specialize with men in this age-group. This is because I have primarily worked with this age group over the past nine years through the non-profit I founded, called Glass Hearts. I find this to be such a refreshing age for understanding what it means to be an adult, and understanding relationships, intimacy, and sexual intimacy.
I have spent that last 25 years, over 20 of it being a father to three sons, guiding men in all stages of fatherhood. While fatherhood is not rocket science, it might sometimes feel that complicated. Juggling work, home life, relationship with another parent, and having time for your child(ren) can seem like an impossible task. The most fertile time to sow the seeds of a deep understanding fatherhood seems to begin when a man finds out he’s going to be a father and lasts through the first year of a child’s life. During this time, it is critical to understand how to take advantage of this time with your child and be an intimate,nurturing father. Allow me to guide you through this process, make sense of your feelings, and find ways to build life-long intimacy with your child. It’s never too early or too late to invest into your child(ren)!
Religious Baggage/Hurt by Religion
I believe one of the most under-discussed abuses in our culture is spiritual abuse. The National Domestic Violence Hotline describes it this way: most examples of spiritual abuse refer to a church elder or faith leader inflicting abuse on congregation members, often by creating a toxic culture within the church or group by shaming or controlling members using the power of their position. It is the shaming and controlling that stand out to me the most. Due to my own upbringing, and extensive work within a religious system, I relate to and understand those who have been spiritually wounded within this culture. While I don’t believe this happens in all situations, I believe it does happen all too often.
I can help you to make sense of destructive religiosity that you might have experienced growing up. I can help you to understand who you were, but more importantly who you are becoming now. This can be a horribly confusing place, because spiritual abuse often involves such destructive beliefs and ideas about who we are and our place in the world. My empathy-based process can help you find your way back from those dark places where your feelings (and especially your sexuality) where treated as evil, bad, dirty, or wrong. My goal, and ultimate hope, is to guide you into a place where your sexuality can be a good, healthy, and integral part of who you are as a person. It can become a place of newness. Drawing fresh water from that well and refreshing your mind and body to bring you back to a life of intimate and life-giving sexuality.