As men, we often never learned how to show emotion or be intimately involved in our life or the lives of those we care about. This cycle continues when these issues bleed into ownsexuality by way of not knowing how to communicate. We can get stuck in trying to work towards quick fixes, or even escaping the problems in front of us (alcohol, food addiction, and drug abuse often result from us searching for an escape). Communication can serve as the vehicle to drive us out of loneliness. I want to help you learn to communicate more effectively with those in your life, ultimately leading you deeper connections with your loved ones and away from loneliness.
President Obama spoke about our culture having an empathy crisis. I whole-heartedly agree. In most cases men don’t know how to empathize appropriately with those they love. This is a skill that has not been appropriately modeled for most men, from boyhood to adulthood. Understanding, practicing, and living out empathy is the foundation on which my work is built.
I put great focus on empathy. Learning to understand the feeling of other ties directly into our emotions. As humans, we want and need to connect emotionally to others but often we don’t know how. I serve as a bridge to help you make these connections. Helping you to put the confusing pieces of this puzzle togetheris part of my gifting. I take “chunky” problems and break them down into “bite-size” pieces, then piece them together so it makes more sense and is more fluid for you.
See the definition of Empathy here.
Lack of Intimacy
I help men who struggle with a lack of intimacy in their lives. This is often tied directly into understanding kindness (empathy) and where kindness and intimacy fit into our lives. I find that we may be able to identify with kindness, but we keep it buried beneath the pain we have endured. It feels impossible to show kindness, but kindness is what is felt from empathy, which flows into intimacy.
See the definition of Intimacy here.
Masculine and Feminine Within Us All
I help men understand both masculine and feminine energies within others and themselves. A vital part of wholeness is understanding we have both of these energies living within us.
I have both masculine and feminine energies within me. I was born as a man and I live as a man. I have a masculine side that is (Courageous, resilient, strong, action-oriented, etc.) There is also a femininity in me that is (open, enjoys listening, values community and working together, is more sensual, etc.) which comes out more and more as I get older.
The more we understand ourselves and our feminine energy, the more we are able to understand our partners. The ability to connect and integrate the masculine and feminine within ourselves makes it easier to connect with another. Often, men come to me not knowing how to integrate the feminine within themselves to the primary masculinity within them.
See the definition of masculine and feminine here.